Denny Celebrates Ruby's Success

Wed., Mar. 3, 2010 10:00 AM PST by Denny Starr
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A lot of time has passed, and a lot has happened, since I last blogged to the viewers and faithful friends of Ruby. However, as far as my relationship with Ruby goes, my feelings and our bond have remained the same. I am still completely committed to helping Ruby reach her goals, and we remain extremely close.

Ruby and I have been friends for over 20 years, and our bond has been one of the soul. Over the past couple of years we have spent more time together, and I have visited her many times in Savannah just as she has visited me in Myrtle Beach. We always look forward to our times together and always have a blast! This past trip she made to Myrtle was especially fun. Due to her continual weight loss, we were able to do things we never would have been able to do before. It is exciting for me to see her get closer and closer to her goal.

It is especially important to me now, as I have seen the effects of obesity. I think because I have been in health and fitness for so many years that some think I live in a bubble unaffected by this. The truth is, most of my family has battled with it my whole life. I lost my father about six years ago, and this past summer I lost my brother—who was not just a brother but a best friend—to a heart attack. I often talked to him about trying to lose weight and watched him fluctuate, sometimes exceeding 350 pounds. Losing him created a void in me that nothing will ever fill, and it makes me want to help others who battle this, especially those I love.

So it is natural for me to push Ruby to fight this with all she has, and I do my best to keep her active but entertained as she battles what I know is the toughest thing in her life. Watching her do things like get in a little go-cart and go dancing and have so much fun is an amazing thing for me.

I don't know exactly where our paths will take us, but I know we will always be like soul-mate friends, and I can't wait to watch her life continue to change as she conquers her enemy. I know a lot of people have questioned my motives, and that is OK. What they don't understand is where Ruby and I have been and all that we have been through. Our history is much bigger than most will ever know, and even though a lot of our relationship could be considered a "gray" area and hard to understand, it will  always remain.

Our relationship during the eight years in L.A. was different as well. People have their own ideas of why we were never intimate in a sexual way, but that refers directly back to the way Ruby was raised. Her Dad instilled very strongly at a young age to not give in to men, and her religious beliefs backed that. I was raised the same way, and obviously I am not a virgin, but I do respect anyone who has the conviction and ability to abstain. As a guy who is 40 years old and never married, I guess I fall a little more into the "what you would expect" role. Some say I am a player, but I wouldn't go quite that far. I was raised by my parents and believe I am still completely respectful of women. I do think I will settle down one day, just not today.

I hope as time goes on people will come to understand Ruby's and my relationship (if that's possible), but as I have said before, at the end of the day there will still be Ruby, there will still be me, and there will always be a lot of laughing, crying, good times and bad—but most of all, love.

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82 Comments

  • leslie manning Wed, Mar 3, 2010, 4:09 PM

    1. I have to admit I am a new fan yet feel I have known Ms.Ruby forever like a soul sister. The first show I had watched was when she was discovering food as an addiction. Which food is for me which brings me to a point that all the men in my life have had an addiction of some sort. Denny what is your addiction? Not that I personally want to know but think it would be a good topic for the two of you to look at as a couple. Just looking out for my sista ** Good luck on your journey and glad your path has brushed up with mine wishing you all the best a fan that keeps it honest--- Leslie Manning Coffeeville MS

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  • berbadette wentland Wed, Mar 3, 2010, 11:44 PM

    2. The dream that you had about someone poisining you with a drink and you getting angry with your family and friends for not doing anything about it got me thinking. The person fixing you a drink might have been the old you before you lost alot of the weight and the reason why you were angry might be that your family couldn't see that the food and or drink that you were putting into your body was actually poisining you. these are just my thoughts

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  • solnor98 Thu, Mar 4, 2010, 12:49 AM

    3. I THINK YOU ARE GR8 4 RUBY. I DONT KNOW WHY PEOPLE ARE BASHING YOU. U ENCOURAGE HER TO STAY ACTIVE,U GAVE HER A PAIR OF JEANS AS A GOAL, BOXING GLOVES * OTHER THINGS IM SURE WE DONT SEE ON CAMERA. I DONT SEE THE SIN IN WANTING HER 2 B HEALTHY.WHEN U LOV SOMEONE SOMETIMES YOU HAVE 2 TELL THEM SOMETHING THEY MAY NOT WANT TO HEAR AT THE TIME, BUT ITS GOOD 4 THEM IN THE LONG RUN. IF YOU STAND AROUND AND WATCH A PERSON WITH ASTHMA SMOKE CIGARETTES * DONT SAY ANYTHING---ARE U REALLY A FRIEND?

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  • Joi Thu, Mar 4, 2010, 5:23 AM

    4. Denny * Ruby.. I agree with the post by solnor98. I am sure there could be some bad in there, but I believe that Denny is good for you in the way he keeps you active and seems to be anything but an enabler. I don't know if his reasons before were due to vanity or heartache at not wanting to see you unhealthy anymore, but either way.. people can change for the better as they grow. You know, I read (lots of places) that some men aren't fully matured til 35..... HAHA~ If nothing else, yall seem to be great friends and I loved watching yall together!

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  • Jennifer Thu, Mar 4, 2010, 6:09 AM

    5. I totally respect your relationship with Ruby, most people think love is black and white...but love comes in so many different forms. You can tell by the way you treat Ruby that you love her and that is what she needs in this battle. Unfortunelty in my life out of all my brothers and sisters and parents I am the one who is chubby and unhealthy, so I ALWAYS have family supporting me and pushing me to get healthy. It is a battle I fight everyday as so many others do. You have my support and admiration for being such a rock for Ruby. God Bless you both!!

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  • kendallini Thu, Mar 4, 2010, 2:11 PM

    6. WAKE UP... Ruby, Georgia * Jeff are great. But GOOD INTENTIONS are not always GOOD IDEAS. Ruby is a food addict. Her illness let her get so heavy she could not participate in life. She was near death and shut in. If Denny dated her at over 200lb, he saw past her weight. The men I know won't date someone who is over 150lb. She is 300 * he loves her. His issue is beyond vanity-- If a drug addict or alcoholic won't stop drinking despite promises to do so, must his partner stay forever? Georgia, Jeff and her family enable her out of love....Denny EMPOWERS her. Who says LOVE must be unconditional...Even our marriage laws have conditions. If my husband is a sex addict and cheats with prostitutes- did I fail to love him for who he is if I leave? Must you stand by and watch someone kill themselves? When Denny pushes her toward a goal she says she wants * we know she needs- ** that is LOVE. Ruby, I love you, but start accepting your part in your break-up.

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  • elbony Thu, Mar 4, 2010, 3:36 PM

    7. I think that ruby has a great personality. I am southern also and her spirit is wonderful. I think that Denny is very very good for Ruby I believe the reason he left the first time was b/c since his brother was oveweight and died of that I feel he didnt wanna get too close to Ruby bc he was scared that would happen to her if she didnt lose the weight. Now that she's losing it he's allowing hisself to come back part of her life again. Ruby has only one life to live and i think she should give Denny another chance at love and if it doesnt goes well, hey **** happens.

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  • andrea Thu, Mar 4, 2010, 5:45 PM

    8. Hi Ruby I enjoy watching the show, quick question. What was the name of the store you went to to purchase the pretty bathingsuit? I'm going to myrtle beach and a big girl like me wants to be able to shop for clothing. Please help.

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  • Retha Thu, Mar 4, 2010, 6:12 PM

    9. I know that Ruby and Denny love each other but as long as Denny is around I dont think Ruby will go foward with her life she needs to find someone that will love her no matter what and if Denny is that person then he needs to tell her. On the last show where you went to Myrtle beach everyone could see you are not just friends. Friends don't act like you both did and there was nothing wrong with the way you acted but you need to be looking for your soul mate to live your life with not just keep hoping that its Denny

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  • MindyWyse Thu, Mar 4, 2010, 9:10 PM

    10. Ruby And Denny, I see why your friends protect you. I do the same for mine. I do also understand where both people are coming from. I am a strong believer that people can change as I have seen my grandpa and Uncle go from decades of alcoholism to being sober. If it was in vain that he left you, which I think it was deeper then that, I honestly think he would be different. I wish I had more people to encourage me with the bad habbits in my life. The two of you have a magical spell that makes my heart smile when I see you together on tv. Your friends need to really reevaluate how they think of Denny and if you choose to be with him in the future they need to see be accepting of your decision. To me it was not a cheating or beating situation, which I would never encourage anyone to go back into. He just wanted you ,Ruby, to be healthy and with him! Oh Lord you two just have something that is hard to come by! Love ya girl! Keep up the great work! Your a blessing to many people ** -Mind

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  • Mary Jo Thu, Mar 4, 2010, 10:19 PM

    11. My dear Ruby.........Please slow down and take the time to listen to the Garth Brooks song The Dance...after everyone gives you their advice on what you need to do with your life at the end of the day you are alone ,by yourself in the dark *** and they are no where to be found.....be true to yourself...You can't please everyone so you got to please your self (words from Garden Party by Ricky Nelson) God bless........

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  • Lori Fri, Mar 5, 2010, 7:52 AM

    12. I just watched this episode last night. LOve you Ruby. You go girl!!!!!!!! YOu looked great in that butterfly bathing suit. I am stil trying to figure out about you and Denny. But do what ever makes you happy. I went to some of those places in Myrtle Beach. Glad you were able to join everyone and have fun just like them. Maybe back in the Day Denny was infatuated w/ the body. But I think over time and years, maybe he has changed. Go for it. I always tell people Go with your heart and your gut. They are the best judge. You know you want it RUBY

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  • Donna Mallard Fri, Mar 5, 2010, 9:12 AM

    13. Hi Ruby! I have just discovered your show and you, and you are wonderful! I love your openness, your laugh, your very real feelings out there for us to share. It can't have been easy to make a decision to put your life and body on display for the masses, but like you, I believe there's a higher reason for doing so. It was meant to be, and if everyday, overweight women like me are seeing and hearing you, and starting to feel good about themselves, their bodies, their lives, then that's the reason you're out there! I wish you continued success with your weight loss! You're very lucky to have the friends you have supporting you. It's very difficult to go it alone. And no matter what direction your relationship with Denny takes, enjoy the moments together- from what I can see, he sure has a way of making you feel special and loved! I'm looking forward to seeing more shows, Ruby- thanks for being there for me!

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  • SUPERSUMMER Fri, Mar 5, 2010, 6:04 PM

    14. Dear Ruby, You are such an inspiration to me and my family. I have been overweight since I was a little girl, so I can so relate to you. I am now disabled at the young age of 34, and I have an autistic 5 year old who is beginning to get a little "chunky". She is obsessed with food, and it is really hard to deal with her on the matter. Her and I both looove to watch your show, faithfully, every week. You are such a wonderful, big hearted woman, and I just want to congratulate you on all your sucess! You are fighting for your life right now, and I know that you will make it. Thank you for doing this show. Your show is the best thing on TV in my opinion. You are so real, and your journey is so brave. We love you and keep going girl! You can do it!

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  • patrice Fri, Mar 5, 2010, 11:30 PM

    15. i love that Danny is by her side and think that he is getting read the wrong way as far as leaving ruby when she was killing herself he has always tried to help her i wish i had that kind of support from my friends and family and i believe that he could be her soul mate but if not that i know he will be in her life one way or another

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  • Leslie in WV Sat, Mar 6, 2010, 8:27 AM

    16. Hi Denny, Hey I think you are a great guy. Unfortunately I think there are way too many judgemental people in the world * you shouldn't worry about what people think or if people accecpt your relation ship with Ruby. That is only up to you and her. You guys go back a long, long time. Maybe a lot of people don't get it.. I do. Sometimes you have people go in and out of your life and then there are people that will always be in your heart no matter what. Because of your brother and your dad * you have an inside view and you know how weight can affect your life * You just want the best for the people you care about. Ruby is a great person * Take advantage of the good times * the friendships * you know not everybody is that lucky * Laugh, have fun, and enjoy life and whatever happens happens. Keep your hearts open because life is too short!!!

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  • DD855@yahoo.com Sat, Mar 6, 2010, 12:45 PM

    17. ALOHA! I WANTED TO ENTER THE CONTEST, TO BRING RUBY TO HAWAII, BUT HAWAII AND ALASKA ARE VOID FROM ENTERING THE CONTEST! KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK RUBY, YOU HAVE SUCH A CALMING NATURE ABOUT YOURSELF, I WATCH YOUR SHOW ALL THE TIME. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! AS THEY SAY: COWBOY UP! OR IN HAWAII, PANIOLI UP! p.s. i gave you advise ruby to contact "sylvia brown" she used to be on the montel williams show every wednesday, she is a psychic. she * her son still do readings, they can help you find out what you are forgetting from your childhood. she is a strong woman this sylvia brown, she has her own website, i don't know what it is, but you should see, too bad montel williams show is off the air, you could have went on his show, to see what they can find out about your childhood... god bless you ruby!!!! ALOHA :0)

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  • Anna Sat, Mar 6, 2010, 2:24 PM

    18. I watched that Myrtle Beach episode and it has been on my mind a lot, enough to write on the web. Denny was sort of vilified for the fact he broke up with Ruby and they say the reason was her weight. Then there was the church service where they talked about finding a person who loves you just the way you are. A man who would break up with a woman just because she gained weight would be a jerk. But, I really think this situation is different. If I was in love with a person deeply and had to watch them killing themselves everyday, it would be too much hurt for me to bear. Ruby admits herself that she was in danger. This is watching a person you love harm themselves when they should be loving themselves. That would hurt to watch. There is always that reality you are planning a future with someone you could loose. The weight made it so you could not fully participate in each others lives. (yeah for the bull and go carts!!!!) This is not just overweight, this is a food addiction. I

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  • nunya Sat, Mar 6, 2010, 2:25 PM

    19. ADMIT IT, YOU ARE GAY, THAT IS SO OBVIOUSLY A GAY MANS HOUSE AND HE IS YOUR GAY LOVER, YOU ARE A CHUBBY CHASER AND SHE IS YOUR *** HAG. YOU'LL NEVER PUBLISH THIS CAUSE YOU KNOW I AM RIGHT.

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  • jenny P. Sat, Mar 6, 2010, 2:55 PM

    20. Denny, Keep up the good work and don't let no one stop you from pushing Ruby to be all she can be. some see you as mean but, I think you have helped to save her life. She is beautiful inside and out and you are helping her to realize this. Whether you get back together or you remain good friends you are here for a purpose. Just remember life is so short and we only have one chance at this!! I have finally found someone who loves me for me and he causes me to want to be better everyday. God bless you all on your journey together for this is not Ruby's fight alone. sincerely, Jenny

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  • InterestedViewer Sat, Mar 6, 2010, 2:58 PM

    21. God bless Ruby for both her courage and effort, and for caring about others. As someone who has been overweight most of my life I know that challenges abound. There are more important things than appearance and even more people are obese than ever, but somehow that doesn't help. A lot of people don't remember much of their childhood but that doesn't always mean something traumatic happened. Denny may be a decent guy, but there is something not quite normal about the past or current relationship with Ruby. Denny may be struggling with his possible homosexuality, although there is nothing wrong with him being gay. Ruby seems to have genuine and loving feelings toward Denny, but Denny's history of alternating between "loving" and rejecting ends up being cruel. There are men who would really love and accept gentle Ruby. Love and rejection are mutually exclusive, and Denny cannot have it both ways. He may be a decent fellow but has issues of his own.

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  • TVannie Sat, Mar 6, 2010, 3:21 PM

    22. I just saw the Myrtle Beach show, I've never watched Ruby before. I think she is working really hard and is a very sweet person. I was really puzzled as I watched because I thought Denny was gay and I couldn't figure out why Ruby was flirting with him, but then I realized if Denny is gay, Ruby can flirt all she wants without any worry about it getting too physical. Lots of women flirt with their gay male friends because there is no chance anything will happen.

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  • Nancy Bookamer Sun, Mar 7, 2010, 10:21 AM

    23. 24. I love to watch RUBY and sympathize not remembering her childhood. I still do not know why I do not remember my 13 years, although my older (3 yrs.) sister remembers everything, it does make you wonder what happened to block it out. I would think her mother or sister could fill in t he pieces. As for Denny, I didn't know or think he was gay; what about her roommate? She deserves nothing but the best with her fun loving attitude and perserverance in losing weight and doing things she never did before, we take it all for granted. She is a beautiful woman with a beautiful soul. No-one can tell you who to love, you have to love all those friends who stick by her and help her and not inhibit her or enable her.

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  • Sarah Mickelson Sun, Mar 7, 2010, 11:28 AM

    24. Ruby, Love you and the show! Keep going woman!! Hey in case it helps: check out Dr. Amen's sight on healthy living. I struggle with a weight issue, my son has food sensitivities, ....the list goes on...but this approach is a very "whole living" approach. His adage is: "Change your brain, change your body". Check it out: http://www.amenclinics.com See what you think. Best, Sarah

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  • sandy h. Sun, Mar 7, 2010, 7:33 PM

    25. I have been watching your progress and admire your determination. Last March I suffered a serious injury in a house fire and was hospitalize for 3 months. I have kept your journey in my head as I spent 7 months in rehab. relearning how to feed my self, walk, write and everything else you can thing of doing on an everyday bases. I think that you are a wonderful person and you will find your way. Please don't post this as I am a very private person but I did want you to know that you do give people hope. sandy h.

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  • jessica Sun, Mar 7, 2010, 10:16 PM

    26. ruby i have watcd u since the start U GO GIRL i like every person around u BUT ur bf geourgia looks at u differant now that u have lost the pounds she is negative one of these days watch ur show 1 from then and now. PLEESSSEEE READ MEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • annd Sun, Mar 7, 2010, 11:16 PM

    27. Ruby I enjoy your show so very much. I see the sparks with Denny and you are so happy with him. I am glad you are being careful. I've had guys in my life similar to him. And I have had the tough love * you need to loose weight for yourself from my dad and then the but you are fat, dumb and ugly so what should I expect? Listen! The one thing people can do these days and be politically correct is be abusive to someone who is overweight. And the weight DOES isolate us from others. It just does. So Ruby * you go girl! The interesting thing about sharing your life on camera is that we so relate to so many things we think we are part of your life. Thank you for sharing your journey! And if anyone in Jax Fl needs a partner in their journey PLEASE let me know! I need a buddy! Ruby * Savannah isn't that far! Let me know if you need a walking buddy some weekend! I have 100 pounds to loose ***

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  • cheryl@vzenterprizes.com Mon, Mar 8, 2010, 8:48 AM

    28. Hi Ruby, I hope you really read this. I used to be very put off by your show because of what you represent. However in recent times i have come to realize that you are what i am afraid of becoming. My mom likes to watch your show. But I am half the weight you were when you started your journey. I am 350 pounds. After last nights show I can really see that your serious and you are not afraid to tell stuff to the whole world and face your fears at the same time. I am scared to death to even approach this whole subject. I have a 14 year old son and I can't keep up with him. I am holding him back with my fears. I am going to do something about. I feel like you might understand what I feel like right now.I feel so alone. Everybody else who are writing comments are writing comments that might encourage you, I am sorry if I sound depressing. This is very hard for me to even open up at all. You probably won't even see this. Keep up your good work and showing people there is hope.

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  • dianne Mon, Mar 8, 2010, 4:21 PM

    29. Ruby and Denny are meant for each other. The love and respect between them is obvious. Ruby, don't allow others to make decisions for you. You say he left you cause he couldn't love you as your were....Ruby, YOU couldn't love you as you were. How can you expect unconditional love from him, when you weren't able to give it to yourself. Georgia and Jeff are wonderful people who love you very much. We should all have people like them in our lives. However, they are going to have to realize they are perhaps being over protective. And they need to back off just a tad. Let you make your own mistakes if in fact being with Denny would be a mistake. I don't believe it would be. He loves you and you he. He challenges you. He pushes you to do just a little bit more than you think you can. The light in your eyes and his when you look at each other is filled with love, adventure and passion. Don't allow that light to go out, Congratulations on your journey so far.And thanks for taking us along

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  • maria Mon, Mar 8, 2010, 6:20 PM

    30. hi ruby i love ur show and my dad has the same problem oh and i sorry to hear about u dog and father that they pased away

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  • maria Mon, Mar 8, 2010, 6:21 PM

    31. how is zachray

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  • maria Mon, Mar 8, 2010, 6:22 PM

    32. please awnser me when u can ruby

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  • maria Mon, Mar 8, 2010, 6:27 PM

    33. hi ruby my dad is just like u but one good thing is u 2 r both losing wait .and i dont mean that in a bad way oh srry 2 here about u dog and father pasing away ur ur soon to be friend maria walker p.s break a leg (good luck)

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  • Debbie Sturgeon Tue, Mar 9, 2010, 8:39 AM

    34. Hi Ruby! Your story is such an inspiration to me. I am and always have fought my weight but it continues to be a losing battle. I lost 50 pounds and have gained back 25 of them. Even the 50 didn't take me to an acceptable weight. I am 56 years old and am raising my 6 year old grand-daughter; a bit stressful to say the least. She makes comments about my weight. My husband is only supportive when I'm losing, not when I'm gaining, etc., etc. When I cry about it, I cry alone. I have no close friends. I'm not on a pity party but simply want you to know that there are alot of folks like me who look to you for comfort and guidance and I'd like to thank you for sharing your journey. No one knows the battle until they've fought it. Thanks for your inspiration! Debbie in Shreveport La.

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  • Bonadea Tue, Mar 9, 2010, 10:12 AM

    35. berbadette wentland, post about the poison dream. That was first thought too (that it was yourself).

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  • Pam Ward Wed, Mar 10, 2010, 10:25 AM

    36. Dear Ruby, I am from Mississippi and fell in love with your show. You are such a beautiful person. Your smile is like sunshine and I am so very proud of you. My daughter had the same problem with weight as you and she decided to have the surgery, she looks great but it has really been a long hard road to travel. I think with you dealing with your inner self and taking one day at a time is the way to go. We have had so many problems to deal with in the past five years that at times I almost gave up. Keep up the good work and know that there are many people with you and you are an inspiration to all of us.

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  • Ron Kipke Wed, Mar 10, 2010, 4:52 PM

    37. The main thing I've learned from watching "Ruby" is that super overweight people are masters at manipulation. I have numerous morbidly obese people in my life and I see Ruby's maneauvers in there behavior as well. I'm thinkng that the "unlocked secret" of her youth may well end up to be that she was overindulged. All the arrows are pointing to some kind of sexual abuse.....but unless her mother is a total liar or her sister was blind, I doubt this was a reality.

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  • Angel Schierbeek Thu, Mar 11, 2010, 10:26 AM

    38. I have been skeptical of Denny for a long time, but he is starting to win me over. Although I haven't met Ruby in person, (I'd love to someday, if I ever went to Savannah), she has a way of making us all feel like we do know her. I look forward all week to her show. She hears all the time what an inspiration she is, but I don't think she really sees what we see. I love her warmth * the way the people in her life are so important. I love her moral compass and that she is not afraid to share her faith and love for our Lord. I love her accent and the funny things that so naturally come out her mouth, She's a born comedian, and anyone who can make someone laugh or smile with their natural personality * truely has a gift. She has a lovely smile and amazingly beautiful eyes. I believe now, that's all the same things Denny sees when he looks at Ruby. When you start seeing all she has, the weight disappears. Ruby's inside beauty truly makes her beautiful outside too!

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  • jeff trueheart Thu, Mar 11, 2010, 2:24 PM

    39. I think i truly know why Denny is distant and not moving your relationship to the next level. It hurts me to tell you this, but somebody has got to be true to you. Ruby, Denny has a problem that he can not control, as much as he likes and even loves you, it would never work between you two because he is attracted to men. He is GAY...He will never be honest with you because he is not even honest with himself...get a P.I. to check this out for you, because i think you will be in denial also until this is confirmed...keep him as a friend only or your heart will break again. You deserve more than someone who lies and strings you along only to boost their own ego and knowingly flat out lies to you. ...stay single...their is nothing wrong with being single...I hope this did not hurt too bad but i know that you have wondered about Denny being gay yourself...It is okay for him to be gay. Just love him the way he is. He knows that you know. Do you know. We know.

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  • dja Thu, Mar 11, 2010, 6:09 PM

    40. Hello Ruby! As I first watched your episode, I was in awh how we can let ourselves get to that point.You see until your show I always fought with food.I love food and how it tastes especially chocolate.BUT, little did I know how fast I was gaining weight and how I was SLOWLY torturing my own body to carry all my weight.When I was watching you on the show YOU was so bubbely and happy and I was thinking I wish I could do that.I REALLY do not know if YOU know how much you have impacted alot of peoples lives( including mine) that they can start over again or even start slow and loose weight.May God Ultimately Bless you for the impact and the eye opening you are doing on this earth for His Kingdom. Keep on living for God your ultimate reward is him! YOU LOOK OUTSTANDING KEEP UP THE WONDERFULL WORK. a W.A.R Sister

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  • CJ Thu, Mar 11, 2010, 6:56 PM

    41. Ruby, all I can say is God Bless you. You are beautiful inside and out, and you will win your battle with weight. How do I know? Because you have discovered the will to live and the true worth and beauty of the inner spirit you possess, and how much living you have yet to experience!!! You are love personified. Think of all the good you can do in the world. You could become a credentialed therapist specializing in working with people fighting the same battle with weight you yourself are conquering. With your sensitivity, compassion, humor, gentleness, and light-filled soul, you could make a huge difference for in those peoples' lives! You don't need Denny. Stop chasing the carrot and find a man who loves and appreciates you RIGHT NOW, as you are, for the beauty you exemplify within and without! As long as you're obcesed with Denny, you leave no space in your life for the right man to come along. A word to the wise. You can stay friends, but don't expect more from Denny.

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  • Kristin Landreville Fri, Mar 12, 2010, 7:44 AM

    42. Hi Ruby, I think you will remember me. I lived upstairs from you in LA. I was in training at the DGA when I lived there and rarely home. I'm soo happy to watch your progress and also cheer for you. You look GREAT!!! Did you stay in La 8 years? I stayed in LA 8 years too. That is long enough for anyone normal person. Well anyway I'm happy for you and I will continue to watch your progress. Kristin from the very classey apartments on Formosa.

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  • Susie Smith Fri, Mar 12, 2010, 9:13 PM

    43. I saw Ruby for the first time today and I can relate. I'm so happy that you have so * courage support, (close friends * animals) that is a major part of recovery. Your attitude is great. I could never have gotten into that hot tub, let alone a bathing suit. Kuddos!!!!!!! I've gotten to a plato and I'm stuck, I wish I had my own personal Denny. Best of luck to both of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Shannon Fri, Mar 12, 2010, 11:23 PM

    44. Hi Ruby. I watch your show all of the time. I applaud you for trying to make such positive changes in your life and for facing your demons so to speak. You are a very beautiful woman with a wonderful personality and great confidence. I have been watching you as you learn and grow. You are only becoming more beautiful and wonderful inside and out. I am just a woman who believes in making positive changes in life, learning, growing and discovering ourselves. I will continue to wish you the best of luck, in your journey and with everything that comes your way; both good and bad. You deserve the best. I know you are a busy woman but, if You have time, I do have two questions for you that I would appreciate responses to. 1. What advice would you give to someone who is trying to deal with things from their past so they tend to cope by eating more? And 2. What would you say to someone that lacks confidence due to their weight and the negative comments others make about their weight?

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  • Glenda Sun, Mar 14, 2010, 11:31 AM

    45. I have to say I don't become a fan easily... but Ruby has stolen my sisterly heart. I just gotta say "YOU GO GIRL!!!" You have become as dear to me as if we actually knew each other. * I had a weight problem when I was a teenager, and realized that I was slowly sinking into bulimia. Fortunately, I had someone to confide in and read constantly anything that I could get my hands on about emotions and recovery. Watching Ruby's Tv series brought back many bittersweet memories, and opened up communication between me and my daughters on a new level. We discuss courage, compassion, forgiveness, self-acceptance, true friendship and loyalty, health, my eating disorder, and relationships... All I can say is a big Thank You!

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  • Glenda Sun, Mar 14, 2010, 11:42 AM

    46. Oh and one more thing... EVERYBODY LAY OFF DENNY!!! He is a true friend to Ruby. That's all that matters, and anything else is NONE of your BUSINESS!!! 'nuff said.

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  • Isaac Sun, Mar 14, 2010, 12:40 PM

    47. OK, 1st...GOOD FOR YOU GIRL, Lose that weight for nobody but yourself, your heart, knees and lets face it, every other part of your body will thank you too... But he's the deal, you will never lose the weight and or come close to keeping it off unless you find true happiness, and you will never find that in a man, you need to find it in life itself. True happiness is being able to get out of bed each morning and smile just because... Now here is the most important piece of advice anyone will ever give you: DENNY IS GAY sweetie, I can't believe you don't know that but he is 100% homosexual, so don't waste one more minute of your time with that choch, you need to find a man that actually wants a woman... The reason he lived with you 8 years and didn't want to make love is because he and his boyfriend were plenty busy without you.... Do whats best for you and get rid of that dork Deny (what a lame name..Deny..:) get real)

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  • Dana Sharp Sun, Mar 14, 2010, 1:44 PM

    48. Hello Ruby, I enjoy watching your show and i'm proud of the weight you have lost. I just wanted to say you have to take the good with the bad, it's all apart of life. Enjoy the ride!

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  • Pamela Sun, Mar 14, 2010, 2:10 PM

    49. Ruby I watched your latest show and they just keep getting better and better. You are truly an inspiration on all levels! You are real and have the light of Jesus showing in everything you do. Thank you for sharing... It shows that you and Denny care a great deal for each other. I'm sure you are being wise about the relationship. Holding off on an intimite relationship will guard your heart even more. I know because it happened to me that way a few years ago and waiting paid off.

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  • Amber Sun, Mar 14, 2010, 2:30 PM

    50. OH my GOSH i didnt know you could do this... Im happier than a pig in poo! LOL Miss Ruby, I wish i lived near you and we could be friends... But you get that all the time. You are blessed to have so many wonderful people around you to support you... Not many of us have that support... Plus to imagine the cost of the Doctor, the Shrink, the gym membership, the trainers, and everything else is a little out of other people reach... How can you do it without all of them to help you? I wish you lots of luck finding you inner baby Ruby. Mr. Denny, I do not believe you are gay... *not that there is anything wrong with that* I think you and Ms. Ruby are cute together... even just as friends. You are a nice guy and people should just deal with the way you guys feel right now. I hope you FIGURE IT OUT SOON! Ms. Ruby, I think you are wonderful, powerful and amazing... God is blessing you in so many ways... and BERTHA LOOKS GOOD IN THEM JEANS! Big Chubby Hugs! Amber, New York

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