Ruby Weighs In on Her Latest Weigh-In
Sun., Aug. 23, 2009 5:15 PM PDT by Ruby Gettinger
Hi, y'all! I wanted to talk to you about this week's episode.
This has been the toughest time in my life. My father died earlier this year, and my baby Lucy has been very ill—sick with kidney failure, ironically, the same illness my daddy died from. (You'll see more of that struggle next week.) The worst heartbreak in life to me is to lose a parent! I am still grieving my father's death. The other heartbreak is to lose a child. Even though I do not have a human child, Foxy and Lucy have become my children. I would do anything to keep them with me forever. But the saddest reality about this life is that forever does not exist, even though I believe in heaven and know I will see my father again.
With all this said, I have had a huge setback! But I need to clarify what happened...
I DID NOT CHEAT!
I did not eat fast foods, candy, chips, etc., which to me defines cheating.
We started this season weighing on my home scale, because my nutritionist, Helen Hussey, was on maternity leave. (She had a baby girl! So sweet!) I do not know when the scale stopped working; I could have weighed more than I knew at the beginning of the season. So, I continued to weigh at home, and it kept saying I was losing weight. Then I weighed at Helen's after she returned from leave, and her scale said 355. I was devastated! At that moment, I felt like I would never, ever get under 350! I thought maybe that because I have always been so overweight it was physically impossible for me to go lower. It may sound crazy to you, but it is even crazier to me that in my adult life I have never been under 350. I felt hopeless, like a complete failure, at that moment.
I know that I had not gained weight at this point but had been maintaining it. Dr. Bradley had said that when I got under 350 (which we all thought I had) I would do Ourlife Fresh for lunch and dinner during the week and be on my own during the weekend, of course eating only healthy food.
But I cheated myself without knowing it. The beast appeared once again, and I didn't even see him. No, I didn't cheat in the terms we all would call cheating, but I stopped eating every three hours, I stopped writing down everything I ate, and I stopped adding up the calories. My calorie intake is 1700 a day; adding in my head will never be accurate. (And even though you order healthy when you go out to eat, they add other ingredients.) Eating two or three protein bars a day in place of meals is not the same as eating healthy meals. (And not all protein bars are healthy.) Working out two or three times a week with a trainer is good, but you still need to do your own workouts at home—biking, walking, whatever you enjoy!
I messed up really bad, and all I did was add another setback for myself. Another disappointment! I am so sorry that I did this to me and disappointed myself, and I am sorry to every one of y'all that I have let you down. But I will not give up. I feel beaten up severely—mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. This is the part where I am in the ring and ready to crawl out! But, guess what: I WILL NOT CRAWL OUT! I will stay in and pull myself back up and fight again, because I promised ME and YOU that I will not get out until I WIN! The beast is going down once and for all.
And I wanted to let y'a'll know first that I am really and truly back on track, and it is showing on the scale now, for sure! YAY!
I was not really considering surgery for me, but I was curious to find out the truth behind it. I searched it out because I wanted the world to realize surgery is NOT the easy way out; sometimes it's someone's last hope. The most important thing I want people to realize is 75 percent of this surgery depends on the person's dieting and exercising, so no matter how we do it, we are all still fighting the same beast, traveling the same road, and I want us all to meet at the finish line!
I want to address one more thing with y'all, and that is Dr. Brewerton. As you know, this is only a 30-minute show (most weeks), so you do not get to see everything. There is more to what went down with me and Dr. Brewerton. I walked out for many reasons. I promise you, I am walking away and finding a new therapist whom I can connect with. Dr. Brewerton was the first therapist I had ever seen. He was the first to make me understand and face a lot of stuff about myself and my past, and I will always be grateful to him for that. But we have a huge conflict in our personalities, and I need to find someone I have great chemistry with. I am visiting with different therapists, and y'all will get to meet whichever one I choose.
What are we pleasing, protecting or avoiding by eating? Why are we using food as a security blanket? Food has done one or all of these things for me, and now it's my addiction. We need to go to the root of the problem—the very place it was birthed—and through this, we will find our truth, and the truth will set us free. I will be going even deeper into the mental part and dealing with my missing memories, and I will conquer!
Thank you so much for all your prayers, support and—most of all—your friendship!
xoxo
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Now loading...Kathryn M. Sloan Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:18 PM
1. Ruby, I am so amazed how parallel our journeys have been, I had gotten lazy about writing down what I ate also, and I was not losing weight as well as I had been. I think keeping track of everything I eat is the only way I can keep myself moving in the right direction. Thank you for sharing your set back with me, I feel like I can get back on my journey and keep living my healthy life plan.
Beverly WRight Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:22 PM
2. Ruby,I truly BELIEVE IN YOU! You are much stronger than you think! You've got what it takes. You know that where you are weak God is strong in you! He sill see you through this until the end:) Or shall I say through the end and beyond:) You can endure the race. You have a tremendous support and we are with you all the way! Love ya:)Beverly
Karen213 Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:23 PM
3. Hi Ruby,I'm not overweight, nor have I ever been. I find so much inspiration in your show though. You have made me see things in a whole new light. I have never seen anyone like yourself. I just don't know what to say. I look foward to watching your show to see what progress you have made both with weight loss, and emotional progress to find who you are. It's something everyone can learn from. You rock Ruby !!Karen Davis
Glenda Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:23 PM
4. I want to say how proud I am of you! You saw what you are doing wrong and you are correcting the situation. I am what they consider "Mor. Obese" * I am 5 feet tall and weighed 189, and it is taking me forever to lose the weight. Currently, I weigh 160, and I struggle, daily. I know it must be difficult for you and you are on National TV. Keep it up, You know people are behind you. May God Bless you.
Michael Johnson Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:27 PM
5. Ruby, I watch your show and have followed your journey from the begin. I am so proud of you and know in my heart you will reach your goal. Your an amazing woman. Keep your spirits and chin up girl. Love your gay watchers in Indianapolis, Indiana
lisa lease Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:28 PM
6. hello ruby,im glad you got rid of dr brewerer he was mean..dont lose heart you will get there you love your new life.and your determined we all fall sometimes t5hat dont mean we fail.god be with you
Gale Hishinuma Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:31 PM
7. Hello Ruby, I have been watching your progress from day one. I am very excited about your progress and cannot wait until you reach your goal. I am have a hard time expressing how I feel about watching you and your progress. I would like to say that I think you are a pretty woman!!! Please keep up with your progress. It helps me be a better person. Keep saying hey y'all. I have family that live in the south.
Kay Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:31 PM
8. Ruby, One of my 'babies' also had kidney failure. My vet suggested that I put them on Purina brand dog food that is sold at the vet. I started with NM(I think that is the letter designation), and have switched to OM. The first one is for kidney problems and the second is for weight control but the vet said that it basically had the same ingredients as the NM. This really seemed to help, Sam and Diane were bother and sister. Sam died 2 years ago at the age of 14 and Diane last December at the age of 151/2 of heart failure. I miss them so much, but I really think the change in dog food helped them live longer than their mother, Noelle, who passed at age 12. I watch you as often as possible and am pulling for you, good luck.Kay
Margaret Tinoco Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:33 PM
9. Ruby, I think you are the bravest women ever. You are a true winner in my book. Remember no one is perfect and set backs will happen, but the important thing is that you are going forward. Keep up the good work! Were all behind you girl!
Carolyn Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:34 PM
10. Hi Ruby. I so enjoy watching your show. I wish I could be as happy as you are. I am just now discovering why I keep eating. I know it is in my head. I'm afraid to be sexy and having that kind of attention on me. When I was a teenager, I did almost everything sexually except having intercourse. But I was supposed to be the good girl. Now I'm a born-again Christian and I think that if I feel sexy again, I will be the bad girl that I really was when I was young. I'm eating and eating so that I'm not sexy any more. I'm almost up to 180 which is 10 lbs over what I weighed when I had my little girl (she's now 13). If I know it's in my head, how can I make myself stop eating? Do you find you have the same struggle? Keep up the good work. You are a beautiful person...a joyful person who loves God and others. May God bless and keep you, Ruby. Love, Carolyn.
Hidden Dimensions Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:36 PM
11. Ruby, Hoping to help you with an insight, here. Psychiatrists do NOT simply sit there and pretend to be your best friend. They intentionally take on the roles of people in their patients' lives and act out the dynamics those relationships to help bring forth the underlying dynamic the patient is hiding from himself or herself. What your psychiatrist did for you (and I watched the whole thing) was precisely that! He intentionally used the control issue, and other suggested underlying phenomena of your forgotten childhood, to recreate (act out) "in the now" what you are otherwise not allowing yourself to remember. What he did for you was not done out of meanness, but of love. He was doing exactly what he should have been doing to help you. Had he just been sitting there seeming to be your best friend, placating you all the way, he would NOT be a therapist! I hope you reconsider his actions as intended to HELP YOU and confront the truth of why "the child" ran out!
Cindy Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:37 PM
12. Ruby * you are an awsome person!!!! Thank you so much for having the courage to put your struggle on TV. I have lost both my parents. The wisest thing I ever read after my father died was that it takes at least two years for the healing to begin. The first year is when we notice all the empty spaces in our lives left by that person. The second year is when the gaps get re-arranged * like a circle reconnecting. I hope in the midst of your struggle you are doing something special for yourself.
Lori Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:38 PM
13. Ruby,So glad to hear you aren't giving up. You have many loyal viewer friends and we are all cheering you on. I am right in the same weight area as you are, so we are on this journey together. Have faith Ruby! We will do it!Lori
susie Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:38 PM
14. Ruby, You are a beautiful woman with a beautiful spirit. You are inspiring to anyone whether skinny, fat, tall, short, on and on....keep up your GREAT work.....reach for the stars girl!
Vivian Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:38 PM
15. Hi Ruby. I started watching your show about two months ago and I run home after church on sundays to watch your show. I'd like to say to that you can beat this. I know that there is power in prayer. Pray first thing every morning and ask Jesus to help you fight food temptations. Sometimes we must say no to our flesh, because a lot of the desire of our flesh, 99 percent of the time is wrong. Trust in God wholly and he will guide you and help you. Jesus can.
Hidden Dimensions Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:39 PM
16. btw... "The Doctor is IN"...the core of your pain!((Hugs))
KLee Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:39 PM
17. Ruby, you are an encouragement to me. I find strength from your journey I do hope your program continues. I am working on losing weight too, I currently weigh 205 lbs and my goal is to reach 140 or less. Thanks for helping me with my journey.
Cindy Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:41 PM
18. Ruby, Just wanted to let you know babygirl I am not only proud of you but honored to be a part of your journey. We will do this Ruby!!!!! Thank you so much for letting us all in your world. Your not only beautiful on the outside but on the inside as well. You have captured my heart and I send you lots of love from Illinois. I am rooting for you. God bless you, your friends and family. Lots of love xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxox P.S. To **** with that scale!!!! lol luv ya
Robin Layman Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:42 PM
19. RUBY,My heart is with you,such a beautiful person in all ways.I have struggled with weight all my life i had gastric bypass 28 years ago and have gained 80lbs in the last few years so the beast is always around every corner and turn.Ruby i understand the pain you feel but please don't give up you are young i am 54 and it is a battle and i know you will win that battle with that beast have faith.I am here for you! I love your show you know we are all out here praying for you.GOOD LUCK * ROBIN
Jeanie Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:44 PM
20. Ruby,I just love you. You are a delight in my life and I look forward to watching you on tv every week. I feel that you are a friend if not in person in spirit. I have had a weight problem all my life. I know what a battle it is and how hard it is to fight this battle. You are truly an inspiration to me. Thank you for sharing your life the good and the bad and your honesty is wonderful. I will pray for you and you please pray for me. We are in this together and God is for us. Hang Tough....
Debbie Moore Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:45 PM
21. Ruby you are so loved and as a fan and a friend I am so proud of you and do not feel you have let anyone down. You are family to me and my girls and we love you unconditionally. You are in our thoughts and prayers daily! Hang in there! Love ya girl!
Joanne Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:46 PM
22. Ruby..you did not not let anyone down, everyone has had set backs in life it can be weight or job or relationships..anything because this is not a perfect world..just remember that's why erasers were invented because we all make mistakes. Just keep on on pluggin away you'll do it. Best Wishes to you. And God Bless Lucy. I had a Lucy as well, she was AWESOME!!!! Joanne
Diane Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:47 PM
23. Ruby everyone has set backs. You will succeed. I was considering surgery as well, and it was so very scary, I couldn't bring myself to do it. My cardio doc wants me to have it in the worst way, but I am determined to do it myself....we will prevail
Diane Hicks Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:47 PM
24. Ruby, I watch your show and have from the start. Hang in there and you will reach your goal. I weigh everyday, eat right and try to walk and my weight changes slow. I also lost my dad this pass Nov. He was 96. I miss him everyday but I will see him one day. Wish you the best, keep your chin up. You are beautiful inside and out. God Bless
Kathy Manley Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:48 PM
25. Ruby, Hang in there girl! My heart just broke for after seeing the show tonight. I came to the website for the first time and read your explanation. I am hoping you have already found a therapist that will fit with you. You know you have a lot of BBWs (big, beautiful women) who are rooting for you and you are blazing the trail for many! Positive thoughts and prayers for you! Kat Manley
Shaunna Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:48 PM
26. You are a great inspiration. Keep it up girl i have struggled with my weight too my whole life but you are giving my the support that I need to break my addictions.May God Bless You,
Cathy Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:50 PM
27. Dear Ruby * I am so grateful for your inspiration. I was seriously in my disease of compulsive overeating when your series started last year. Over time I went back to Overeaters Anonymous meetings on a regular basis.Please know that you have NOT failed us nor have you failed yourself. You've had a setback. It's part of the process. A friend of mine asked me once what I had learned (about myself) or otherwise during my setback. I felt like it gave me an opportunity to see my setback as something I could grow from rather than beat myself up about.Feelings about my current life and my past ALWAYS cause me want to pick up unhealthy foods. Again, part of the process. A setback is a setback is nothing more and nothing less. Be good to yourself. We all deserve to be good to ourselves. Thanks again for your inspiration.
Mandy Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:51 PM
28. Ruby, first let me say that I LOVE YOU! You are such an inspiration to me and to many others! Please don't think that you have let anyone down! You had a setback, which we ALL do, at least once. The important thing is that you realize it, you deal with it, and you get back on track. I am currently trying to get back on track myself. I have been overweight my entire adult life as well, topping out at 270 lbs about 2 years ago. I am 5'2". I lost 75 lbs over the course of a year but then last spring my 20 year old brother passed away and my grandmother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Then in the fall I had to have my 7 year old "baby" put to sleep. All of these events took a toll on me and food again became my comfort tool. I stopped working out and turned solely to food. I am now back to almost 250 lbs and I am devastated! You, however, give me hope. I know I can do it again and you are helping me do that. You are amazing for letting the world share in your journey. Don't ever give up!
Hidden Dimensions Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:52 PM
29. Did he take or make a lot of phone calls during your sessions? Say weird things on the phone in front of you? Keep interrupting your sessions for "other than you" reasons? Take on uncomfortable-to-you posturing during your sessions, and other assorted inexplicable behaviors?He was testing you, for endurance, tolerance levels, patience, intelligence, insightfulness, commitment, etc... I really hope to help you realize the love you are running away from. Who was that child REALLY running away from? Journal the whole process, and then go back and make your psychiatrist the various others from your childhood. The answers you say you want are weighting for you!I'm on your side!:)
Dee Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:54 PM
30. Ruby, you are such an inspiration! I am so sorry about your dear 4 legged friend. My 20 year old 4 legged friend just went to the other side. You inspire me, you encouage me and you make me believe in myself! You are so correct, we all ARE on the same road. Eating right and exercising and believing is our key. I too crave sugar. DARN IT! I am so glad you passed on bariatric surgery. My neighbor had it 4 years ago and has gained almost all of this weigh back. Another woman from our church did the surgery and she is gaining her weight back. Unfortunately, I worked with a woman who died after complications from bariatric surgery. She was only 51. I will continue to watch your show, and pray for you and for all who suffer with any addiction. I send you only my best. May the Goddess bless you!
Cheryl Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:56 PM
31. Hey Ruby,I fight the beast too, and alot of days hes winning. I recently lost some weight, but then gained it all back. I have medical conditions that also make me gain weight, I weigh 100 lbs more than I did when I met my husband. I was in abusive relationships, made alot of bad decisions, so alot of the time I self sabotage. But you really inspire me. I just have to tell you that. You are beautiful, real, so sweet and sensitive. Go girl, Im right with you and we'll make it.Love,Cheryl
Candee Brakefield Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:56 PM
32. Ruby, I wish that I could tell you what I went through when my dad died. It was the first time I ever grieved and it is horrible, but normal to go through it. You haven't let anyone down. Now you know and you can take the right steps.Hang in there sisterchick.
Dawn Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:57 PM
33. Ruby You're amazing to me!! You have so much energy
Nicki Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:57 PM
34. Ruby,I just had gastric bypass last Monday (Aug 17th). I wanted to say that there are so many benefits to the surgery, not just weight loss. It also is great for reducing blood pressure, cholesterol, diabetes, back and joint pain. I'm not suggesting that the surgery is for everyone but for those who are interested there are many great websites with wonderful information. You should also check with your doctor about finding a bariatric support group in your area. I have been attending my local support group since Feb. and have met some wonderful people that are at different points in their journey. Some are still pre-op, some are post-op 1 week, 2 weeks, all the way to 15 years. The information and support I have gotten from these people are invaluable. And every single post-op person has said they would do it again in a heartbeat!Good luck in your journey Ruby!! Do whats right for you!Nicki
Debbi Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 5:59 PM
35. Ruby, you keep calling it a journey and it is just that. On our journey, we sometimes set upon straight roads and sometimes set upon winding ones. Sometimes we hit a fork in the road, no pun intended, and set down the wrong one. But we can always take a YOU-turn (Thank you, Dr. Oz!) and head back down the right road. I think your journey is helping to raise your self-awareness and that is going to speed your journey. As long as you keep that awareness to the forefront, you'll be okay. I'm very proud of you, especially when you come forward and express that you went down a wrong path along with your intention to go back to the right one. Good luck and god-speed!
debbie chandler Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:01 PM
36. Ruby you are a beautiful person and I have the same weight problem. I have been overweight all my life. When I was 6 they put me on diet pills. I guess they did not work because I am still overweight. I did have my stomach stapled in 1991 and lost 130 lbs but over the years I have put half of the weight back on. It is definately not a cure all for weight loss. You have inspired me to try to loose this weight again. I tape all your shows and when I feel down and out I play your show and you inspire me. You are very fortunate to have friends and family support. I do not have that. I would love to be near you so we could work together on this journey. We can do it. You are an amazing person and I know you will conquer this journey you are on.
Elisabeth Sizemore Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:01 PM
37. You have no idea, how many times I have sat * holding my dog- Indy and cried with you. I'm diabetic, obese, cnt lose past a specifc ** At times I dont even care. I'm single and both parents are in heaven. I have 2 sis * one with down syndrom * Debbie, my example of God's LOVE! She had to leave her home of 45 yrs, most belongings * within 6 ds of our dad dying? I moved fr AZ to TN to help her through the change. Funny -she helped me more. There is so much I would like to share but here are a few points: Debbie tells me when she misses dad * I still love him and miss him and I dont cry any more (its been 5y). We have good memories. With her tiny thumbs up * she'll say- dad wants me to be strong. I'm doing good. Just try it- it does work! * It is extremely hard, at least for me- my father was the only man who loved me unconditionally. God will pull YOU through!! Ruby-I pray that God will cradle you in his arms now. Some days you feel like it just happened, but you will laugh again
royal router ** Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:01 PM
38. Hi Ruby! I just wanted to thank you and let you know that in the last episode when you destroyed the scale and affirmed that you wouldn't let it beat you, you encouraged me to stand up strong again and face my own challenges in my life. I was struggling all weekend to find the hope and faith that I had lossed. Watching your show helped me find it! Thank you so much! Seeing you face your struggles has helped me face my own with a much more positive outlook. God Bless!
Lorraine Devenney Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:05 PM
39. Dear Ruby:I'm a huge fan of your show * I never miss it. I'm one of countless people who feel that you are such an inspiration. We root for you through your trials and tribulations because we all go though the ups and downs that you go through. I, too, lost my Dad in September, 2008. Like you, I am a diabetic so I share some of what you're going through. I tell my doctor that I have ADD when it comes to dieting! Nonetheless, it's important to get on that horse and keep riding. Keep fighting the good fight!
Eve Kershaw Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:05 PM
40. Ruby, I too have a battle with the scale. It is a fierce one. My scale says one thing, the gym's scale says another and don't even get me started about the scale at my dr's office. It has gotten me to the point that I want to give up but I cannot. You are a strong and beautiful woman and if you can keep going after this disappointment then I can keep going too!!!!!
Francesca Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:08 PM
41. You know it seems like in this size zero world there just isn't room for us bigger girls but that doesn't change anything. I'm so proud of you and all that you have accomplished, not just physically but mentally. I am on a nutrition program and have an eating disorder as well(eating emotionally) so I know what a nemesis the scale can be. I want to advise you to be strong, your future depends on it. In spite of the baby being sick and your grieving your father's death, just remember you are still here and you haven't one anything to anyone!!!! I was soo touched by yourepisode when you were looking for lost memories and your newer one were you were mad at your therapist, but as an aspiring therapist I know that it is always the hardest when you confront yourself, and admit to your faults. You have come so far and still have soooo much to accomplish, not for the tv show but for RUBY and for the dreams you thought would never come true.
Nancy Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:10 PM
42. Hey Ruby, Hang in there!!! I have lost both a mother whom I simply adored and a sweet doggy who I had to love enough to let go all within the same year.....I promise you it gets better, the pain does become easier. Lean on the ones you love, that is what has pulled me through. I think you are fabulous! Nancy
Cindy P Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:12 PM
43. Oh Ruby, how I do understand everything you have said here...you are working so hard with the team you have put together to help .I believe that I have been spiritually, mentally and physically possessed by a power greater than I am and it isn't God. I remember you in that red dress at church with the minister laying hands on your head and praying for you and with you and the congregation...are you still spiritually connected to the people there and are you praying and meditating on a daily basis? Would you consider working a program that requires taking 12 steps?My gosh, how much can a person take in a short period of time? My experience is that God has never piled up more on me than He and I can handle together! Now is a good time to do a photo board of your babies and all of the years you have been together...I love the other picture boards you have already put together!God Bless You and Keep You Always,Cindy
Donald Poindexter Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:13 PM
44. Ruby, while at my girlfriend's house I caught your show and was amazed by what I saw. First you should be congratulated for the decision to make a physical change. Weight tells you nothing but how much you weigh under gravity at that moment in time. As a fitness professional I was thrilled to watch you destroy your scale. I tell clients all the time to destroy their scale or give it to someone they don't like. I don't know much about the show but it is now set to record on my DVR.From what i saw you have many people in your ear pulling you in different directions. You are seeing a nutritionist who is overweight and a therapist who is overweight. Why on earth would anyone take the advice about weight loss from these people? I was appalled when the nutritionist suggested surgery. Why would you take the only system in your body that's working correctly and destroy that? Something in your past is causing you pain and is the reason for your weight gain. Free yourself of that.Donald
Desi Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:16 PM
45. RUBY!! I love you so much girl ** You are a constant inspiration. How does it feel to be loved and supported by so many (random) people, all connecting with you in every way. So, I'm not sure if you read these comments or not, but I would love to do you makeup. I've been an International Makeup Artist and think I could help you a little... I mean, not that you need it * ** BUT I think I could help you "express" your love for your gold eye shadow. You are gorgeous, with or without the help of cosmetics. This is just something I think about every time I watch your show!!You're amazing Ruby!!
mike Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:18 PM
46. Ruby i live in beaufort sc .I watch your show I Was 330 lb now 270 lb becuse you help me to keep going.When you fall just get right back up.I go to OMNI GYM the guys there are the best.KEPP UP THE GOOD WORK.THX MIKE *
Aleta Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:24 PM
47. Your picture here is skinney and beautiful woman! I can't believe how much different you look and how much you have lost in this last year. I am losing too, but am not exercising like you. I need you to come out here and kick me in the butt, oh, bring Jeff too. He can laugh and goof off and keep me on track too. I am so proud of you. I am also so sorry about your father and your little doggie. I hope to hear she is either on her way to being all better. If not? you will deal with it Ruby, you always have. You will figure out something if she goes to heaven. big hugs hon!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love,Aletaxoxoxox
Donald Poindexter Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:26 PM
48. Hi Ruby, Donald again while reading your post the first thing I noticed is that you have a lot of negative self talk. Please, Please stop that. Those negative thoughts are holding you back. Keep it up you're doing fantastic.Donald
A. Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:27 PM
49. Ruby--you're amazing and I'm really proud of you. I go to therapy too and it can be really hard and I've totally wanted to stop going before. I know you have other issues with your doctor that I haven't seen and can't understand, but I also feel like you're so close to a break through and something inside is telling you to get the **** away from it. Even though it made you uncomfortable, it was kind of great to see you angry at the therapist. You're always so happy and giving and loving and great, but you deserve to get mad and feel that, too. Something obviously happened to make you forget and I think you need to get to a place where you can both grieve and detest whatever that was. I, like many others, am on a similar journey, so know that I offer my words from a place of love and support.Best, another someone who believes in you
Kathy Sun, Aug 23, 2009, 6:27 PM
50. Ruby---Wow--when you smashed that scale I was right there with you! Sometimes it helps to get out frustrations on an object instead of yourself or someone else. Keep up your journey. You are going to make it---I know you are. We are all so proud of you.